Find Out If Your Boyfriend Is Cheating (for Girls)

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Find Out If Your Boyfriend Is Cheating (for Girls)
Find Out If Your Boyfriend Is Cheating (for Girls)

Whether you're starting a new relationship or you're in the midst of a serious one, there's always a chance that your boyfriend is cheating on you. If you have reason to suspect that this is indeed the case, or if you're wondering if you're looking too much into it, follow these simple tips to find out if your boyfriend is cheating.


Method 1 of 4: Pay attention to his appearance

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Step 1. See if his appearance has changed

His appearance can say a lot about whether or not he cheats. If he previously didn't seem to care so much about his appearance, but suddenly he spends more time on personal grooming than you do, then something is wrong. Maybe he's trying to improve/change his looks to please his other candy. Here are some signs that may indicate that he is doing it for someone else:

  • If he looked a little grubby before, but now he's constantly shaving.
  • If he now regularly goes to the hairdresser, while he used to grow his hair shaggy.
  • If his clothing style has improved a lot.
  • If you often see him looking in the mirror.
  • If he always looks good, even when he should be going to work or study.
  • A big warning sign is when he smells different. If he smells like perfume, that's obviously a bad sign. But the chemical makeup of his body may also have been altered by his intercourse with another woman.
  • If there are loose hairs on his body and clothes that are not yours.
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Step 2. Notice how he treats his body

If your man has suddenly been working a lot more on his body than before, he may not be doing this just for you. Unless he's decided to run a marathon, he may want to improve his body to impress another girl. Here are some signs:

  • When he can suddenly be found in the gym very often. Going to the gym can also be used as an excuse to meet up with his other girlfriend.
  • If he has drastically changed his diet to become healthier. He may have done this to impress someone else.
  • If he seems strangely shy with his body when you are around. If he doesn't want you to see him shirtless, and only wants to have sex in the dark. This could mean that he feels he is being unfaithful to his other wife.
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Step 3. Pay attention to his body language

Your man's body language can say a lot about what he thinks of you. And whether he thinks of anyone other than you. Here are some signs that he may be cheating:

  • If he doesn't make eye contact with you when you talk. If he always did that before but suddenly looks at the floor every time you talk, he might be feeling guilty.
  • If he shows you no affection. If only he used to love to shower with you, but now he barely wants to touch you.
  • If he shows you affection in private, but not in public. Some guys are just shy about showing their affection in public. Can't he stay away from you at home, or with friends, but seems to shun you in public? Maybe he's worried that his other girl will see the two of you together.

Method 2 of 4: Watch what he does

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Step 1. See if anything has changed in your sex life

If he has another girlfriend, he may spend less time with you in the bedroom. However, it is also possible that he is more interested in sex. Look out for the following:

  • If you have been dry for a very long time. If he never wants to make love again, he may do so elsewhere.
  • When he suddenly has an insatiable sex drive. If he suddenly wants to have sex continuously, his libido may have increased because of sex with another woman.
  • When he tries a bunch of new moves. Maybe he learned this one from another girl.
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Step 2. See if he has become nicer or more helpful

Your boyfriend may feel so guilty about cheating on you that he suddenly becomes a lot nicer to you. If you find that he suddenly does a lot more household chores, or helps you a lot more, then he may be trying to compensate.

  • If he's cleaning up your apartment, fixing your car, or running errands when he never did before, he may have a reason for it.
  • If he always asks if he can do something for you.
  • If he is suddenly the greatest romantic and gives you chocolate and flowers; especially if he's been very distant for a long time.
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Step 3. Make sure it has become very clean from scratch

If your boyfriend didn't seem to care about the cleanliness of his car or apartment before and now he seems to be cleaning for hours on end, he may be trying to cover up evidence. Or he cleans everything just to please his other wife.

  • If his car used to be filthy and is now spotless, he may be keeping his car clean for his other female.
  • If his apartment is a lot cleaner than before, and he always says he needs time to clean, he may be trying to remove evidence from his other girlfriend. If you really want to find out if he's cheating, visit him while he's "cleaning up". Look what he's really doing.
  • If he uses an air freshener in the car or at home. Maybe he's using this one to mask some woman's scent.
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Step 4. Notice if his mood changes

Whether he is always good-humoured or grumpy, while before he always seemed balanced, something is wrong. Watch his mood to see if anything is wrong:

  • If he's in an extremely good mood sometimes, like he's walking with his head in the clouds, for no reason. When he grins from ear to ear and stares into the distance, as if he's reliving a particularly pleasant memory with someone else. His good mood may have nothing to do with you.
  • When suddenly he is in a terrible mood. If everything seemed fine and he suddenly seems furious or upset, especially after a phone call or text, then another girl may be responsible.
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Step 5. Watch for shady behavior

Shady behavior is fairly easy to spot, and if he does at least some shady things, it could indicate that he is cheating. Here's some of the signs:

  • When he suddenly spends a lot of time on his phone. If, as soon as you walk into the room, he stops calling or texting.
  • If he suddenly spends a lot of time online. This could be a sign that he is chatting with another girl. If he closes his computer when you enter the room, it's a bad sign.
  • When he disappears for hours, and cannot be reached for days, nights or even a weekend. If he doesn't take the time to call or text you, he may be dating another girl.
  • If he has turned off his phone for hours on end. Why else would he do that?

Method 3 of 4: Pay attention to what he says

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Step 1. Pay attention to his excuses

Before, he always wanted to meet up with you, but now the reasons for avoiding you seem to be piling up. At first you believed him when he said he had a stomachache or was too tired, but now you start to wonder if he's actually trying to tell you that he doesn't want to spend time with you. Maybe because he's too busy meeting up with other girls. Here are some signs that could indicate that he is cheating:

  • If before he always wanted to make time for you, but now he always seems to go out with the boys. This is especially suspicious if he doesn't have that many male friends, or if he's never really felt like going out with his friends before.
  • If he suddenly has to work overtime. Although he also had to work overtime before, it now seems like he is really busy, and that he spends all his time at work instead of with you. Of course, many professions have a certain time when they are busier, and he may be working on a very time-consuming project. However, it is more likely that by overtime he means that he is going to his other girlfriend.
  • If he is always too tired to stay long, but was not tired before. This could be a sign that he is devoting his energy to someone else.
  • If you always meet for lunch or dinner before and he suddenly doesn't feel like it anymore. Or if he keeps not feeling well, or is not hungry.
  • None of these signs definitely indicate that your boyfriend is cheating. But if all of these things come up repeatedly, he may prefer to spend his time elsewhere or no longer want to hang out with you. If he keeps making excuses as to why he can't spend time with you, then you need to ask yourself why you're still in a relationship with him.
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Step 2. Pay attention to what he says

Even if he doesn't make excuses all the time, your boyfriend may say things that make him sound like a completely different person. If he's suddenly talking to you very differently, or in general, his thoughts may be on another lady. Here are some things that could indicate that he is cheating:

  • When he stops complimenting you. Did he overwhelm you with compliments for this, and suddenly flattery ceases to exist? If he never tells you that you're beautiful, or never emphasizes your best features, or how nice you are in general, he may be saving his flattery for someone else.
  • If he compliments you more often. If he didn't compliment you very much at first, but all of a sudden he keeps telling you how great you are, he may be doing this because he feels guilty. If he does this after a long, unexplained absence, it's all the more suspicious.
  • If it simply sounds different. Does he say things he never said before, does he use words he never used before, or does he laugh differently? Maybe he picked up these mannerisms from his other special lady?
  • If he leaves your texts unanswered for hours while you were in the middle of a conversation. If you've been corresponding for a long time and he suddenly seems to have disappeared from the face of the earth, it may be that his new girlfriend has shown up.

Method 4 of 4: Do your research

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Step 1. Ask him if he is cheating

If the signs are piling up and you think you've already exposed him, then it's up to him to confess now. The easiest way to do this is to ask him about it. That way you don't have to dig through his belongings, you don't get hurt if you see something you don't like, and you save yourself the extra pain and embarrassment. That's how you do that:

  • Ask him unexpectedly. You still need to find the right place and time, but ask him if he's not expecting it. This reduces the chance that he will conjure up a brilliant lie.
  • Tell him you prefer the truth over lies. Make it sound like he's doing you a favor by confessing everything-and he actually does.
  • Make eye contact. Be very sincere. Show him that he really hurts you.
  • If you're too scared to ask him, and you don't want to chase him; ask a friend or one of his friends to help you. Chances are one of his friends knows about it. Maybe he's not really comfortable with it either.
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Step 2. Chase him

If you're afraid to start the conversation, or feel you don't have enough evidence, follow him to see what he's really up to. You have to do this secretly. If he finds out, he will lose faith in you and provide no proof at all. This is how you do it:

  • Follow him in a friend's car. When he tells you he's going out with the guys and you really want to know what he's doing. Then borrow a car from a friend so he doesn't find out it's you.
  • "Drop in" when he's not expecting you. Visit him at random times, such as when he says he's not feeling well. Or if he's said he's cleaning. If he's not feeling well, bring a cup of soup and do your best to be as sweet as possible. Regardless of whether there is another girl around, check out his reaction. Is he happy to see you, or angry that you come to visit him without warning?
  • See if he's really working overtime. That's easy. Just pass by his work place to bring him a cup of coffee or a snack. Or drive by to see if his car is there.
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Step #3. Digging through his stuff

This is the fastest way to break your husband's trust, and can put your relationship at risk. But if you're really sure he's cheating, don't hesitate. This is how you do it:

  • Check his phone. If he's not such a good cheater, he'll make it impossible for you to look into his phone. Try it anyway. Check his phone when he sleeps.
  • Check his computer. If he's stupid enough to leave his computer open, check his emails and Facebook posts. This will let you know pretty quickly whether he is cheating or not. Also keep an eye out for accurately deleted emails. That's a bit suspicious too.
  • Search his stuff. If he's asleep or not at home, dig through his desk, purse, or wallet. Look for tracks.
  • View his bank statements. Can't you remember spending €200 together at a romantic Italian restaurant? Then he probably did that with another girl.


  • You can find out pretty quickly if your boyfriend is cheating if it turns out that he never has time to hang out with you. It seems like he only has plans without you.
  • He will make up all kinds of excuses that will make you feel bad.
  • If he talks (or texts) more with another girl than with you, or if you are away; then there is a good chance that he is cheating.
  • Nothing you can do will determine his actions. Sometimes there's nothing you can do but run away. Never write off this opportunity. If you do this, you will achieve nothing.
  • Let him walk, even if you just think he's cheating. There are plenty of men who can appreciate a real girl. Don't waste your time fixing broken toys. Let them destroy themselves, it is inevitable. Good luck.
  • If he's making excuses not to hang out with you, but goes out of his way to go out with his friends, chances are he doesn't want to hang out with you anymore.
  • If your boyfriend changes his speech and behavior in your presence or absence, that could be a sign.
  • If he doesn't dare to look you in the eye, he may be cheating.
  • Don't just ask him, "Hey, you're not cheating, are you?" He will answer "no" to this, and he will think you don't trust him.
  • If your boyfriend comes home after long periods of absence, it may indicate that he is having an affair.
  • If he's constantly on his phone, and always busy when you call him, he may be cheating.
  • Talk to a friend who found out her boyfriend was cheating. See if she has some advice for you.
  • If your boyfriend is suddenly a lot nicer, that's a sign too.

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