End a chat conversation

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End a chat conversation
End a chat conversation

Navigating chat etiquette can be difficult, even for people who text all the time! If you want to end a chat or leave a group message without appearing rude, you have a few different options. If you politely excuse yourself, make plans to talk later, or say you're too busy to talk right now, you can end the conversation without hurting anyone's feelings.


Method 1 of 3: End the conversation politely

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Step 1. Excuse yourself by saying you are about to do something

After you've sent a few messages to someone, excuse yourself by saying something like, "I'm about to hit the gym, it was nice talking to you!" This will let the other person know that you probably won't be responding to their messages for a while.

Be sure to tailor your answers depending on who you're talking to. If you're sending a message to a co-worker, you can say something along the lines of, "I'm about to go out for dinner. I'll see you at the office on Monday!'

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Step 2. State why you are not available to talk right now

Sometimes ending a conversation is as easy as saying, "I'm at work right now, I'll talk to you soon!" Most people will understand as long as you have a real reason to end the conversation.

  • For example, if you're at home, you could say, "Someone's at the door - we'll be chatting soon!"
  • When you're about to get in the car, you can send a quick message like "Talk to you later, I'm driving!"
  • Don't lie about what you do or why you can't talk. More often than not, the person talking to you will know that you are being dishonest, and then he or she may get upset.
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Step 3. Tell the person you go to bed late at night

Most people understand if you have to end the conversation to go to sleep. As soon as you feel yourself getting tired, let your chat friend know that you are going to sleep soon. Try not to fall asleep while talking; that may seem rude!

  • For example, you could say something like "I have to go to sleep - talk to you tomorrow!" Say this when you know you can talk.
  • If you don't talk to the other person often, you can say something like, "I'm so sleepy. Let's catch up later this week!' and plans to talk on the phone or even a video call within days.
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Step #4. Reply with an emoji or two if applicable

When talking to someone you often see in person, responding with an emoji is a great way to break up the conversation until you see each other. Don't forget to make sure the emoji is an appropriate response to their message before hitting send!

  • For example, if your roommate says, "I'm bringing pizza home for dinner!", you can respond with the heart eyes emoji or the thumbs up emoji to let the other person know that you've seen the message and that you're excited.
  • If a friend or family member sends you "Are you free?" or "Can you talk later?" you can respond with a thumbs up or down emoji, depending on your answer.
  • This is a great way to end a conversation before it starts. Because you don't respond with words, the other person is less likely to feel that they need to reply to your message.
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Step 5. Wait for messages if you have nothing to say

If you've been messaging for a while and have nothing to say, just wait to respond. Try to think of something within 15-30 minutes so that it doesn't seem like you're ignoring the message.

  • If you can't think of anything to say, end the conversation by making plans to talk later or saying you're busy.
  • Don't feel like you have to respond immediately to messages you receive. If you don't have anything to say, sometimes it's best to just wait until you find something important or fun to contribute.

Method 2 of 3: Ending a conversation with your crush

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Step #1. End on a flirty note with a cute comment or emojis

When it's time to end the conversation with your loved one, keep it light and sweet! Use an emoji like a kiss or heart gene emoji and let them know you're thinking about them even if you can't speak.

  • Before you go to sleep, say something like 'Good night, I can't wait to talk to you tomorrow! Xoxo' or 'Sleep tight!'
  • If you want to have another conversation when you're available to talk, try saying something like, "I have to go now, but what do you think of Drake's latest album?" Let's discuss that later!'
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Step 2. Make plans to talk in person or on the phone later

If you're talking to someone you normally interact with and can't respond for a while, make plans to talk to them later. Be specific with your plans so that the other person knows what to expect from you.

For example, if you're at school, you might say to your partner in the morning, "I have class all day today, but I'll finish at 4:30 PM. Do you want to eat at 5 o'clock?'

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Step 3. Thank the other person for a good time when you've been on a date

Waiting for contact with your loved one after a date is a thing of the past. If you texted after your date, end the conversation by thanking the other person for a great night and suggesting that you would like to meet again.

  • For example, you could say something like, “Thank you so much for a great evening! Let's do something soon?'
  • If you are sure that the other person likes you, you can be braver. Try saying something like "I hope I'm dreaming about you tonight!"
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Step 4. Close the conversation casually if you're not interested in it

Talking to someone who is in love with you can be tricky. Try to be friendly, but be simple with your answers. If you don't want to talk to the person, let them know you're not interested and end the conversation.

  • For example, if someone asks you to meet up, you could say something like, "You're a nice person, but I'm just not interested in you that way."
  • Don't try to suggest continuing the conversation or say something like "Speak to you later," which could give the other person the wrong idea.
  • If you ever feel unsafe after rejecting someone, tell a trustworthy person. Contact the police as soon as possible if the person sends you threats or starts acting strangely.

Method 3 of 3: Leave an iMessage group

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Step 1. Excuse yourself from the group

Before you abruptly leave the conversation, send a message letting the other members know you're leaving. You don't have to give a reason why, but telling them you're leaving can prevent them from adding you back to the group or posting you in future group posts.

You can say something like, "Hey, I'm going to remove myself from this group. All these messages are making my phone slow!'

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Step #2. Open the message thread in the "Messages" app

Go to the "Messages" app, which is normally located at the bottom of the screen and looks like a green square with a speech bubble in it. Scroll through your posts until you find the group you want to leave.

  • Search for the names of the people in the group or the group name. Depending on who started the group, they may have the title based on the content of the post.
  • If you can't find the conversation, use the search function in the messaging app by typing someone's name into the message.
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Step #3. Tap on the 'i' at the top right corner of the conversation

The 'i' with a circle around it will take you to the text message information page, where you can see the group members, shared photos, and more. When you go to the information page, at the top of the screen is the option “Details.”

If you can't find the 'i', try exiting and reopening the message to make it reappear

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Step 4. Select 'Leave this Conversation' from the information menu

Below the group members' names and the options to share your location, you should see a bar on the screen that says "Leave this Conversation" in red. Tap the bar and then tap the button that appears at the bottom of the screen.

  • If the button is not available, it means it is not an iMessage thread because a member of the group does not have an iMessage. On an iPhone, you can only leave iMessage groups.
  • If the text of the bar is grayed out, it means there are only 3 people in the group. To leave a group of 3 people, you must add another person to the group to take your place.
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Step 5. Turn on Do Not Disturb to mute notifications but stay in the group

The Do Not Disturb feature turns off notifications from the group message, but allows you to see and respond to the conversation when you're not busy. Just above the "Leave This Conversation" bar, turn the "Do Not Disturb" switch to green instead of gray.

  • To receive notifications from the group again, simply flip the switch back to its original position.
  • This will only disable notifications for one specific thread. If you don't want to receive notifications on your phone at all, you can turn on the Do Not Disturb feature.


  • Always read your messages before sending them, especially if you're talking to someone important, like your boss. You can save yourself from an embarrassing typo!
  • Don't feel like you have to respond to every message you receive. In general, only respond to a message when it requires your immediate attention. Otherwise, it is best to wait before responding.

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