Most games are more fun when you play them with people you know and like. In addition, games are a useful way to get to know other people and build lasting bonds. Try a few different methods of finding gamer friends -- you'll definitely get better at it the more you do it, just like gaming!
Method 1 of 3: Making friends while gaming
Step 1. Remember gamers you love to play with
Remember or write down the username of a gamer you have enjoyed playing with. This way, when you see them again, you'll be able to remember aspects of their game that you liked, or, if they said something specific while playing, you'll be able to talk to them about it.
Compliments are a great way to connect for the first time. If you liked a strategy someone used, or saw a good move someone made, let them know. Say something like 'great shot!' may not seem like much, but it lets the other know that you noticed the person
Step 2. Connect if the person is online
Message a user you've played with and ask them to play again. Consider logging in around the time you last played with the other person to increase your chances of seeing the player online.
- Many games offer the option to 'befriend' another player, which will notify you when he is logged into the game. This way you can see when your new friend is playing and invite them to play with you at any time.
- Say something like, "Great game yesterday! Another round?'
Step 3. Make plans to play with each other later
If you want to be formal, you can ask someone if they want to play again soon, and set a date and time for the next game. This can be a good way to strengthen budding friendships. Try phrases like:
- 'Nice to play together! Soon on repeat?'
- “You're good at this. Do you want to play again?'
Step 4. Remember to keep it casual
While you may be looking for a lifelong friendship, they may just be interested enough to play one more round with you. Do not immediately ask for personal information and never give out personal information unless you are sure it is safe.
- If you ever feel unsafe while having a conversation with another gamer (e.g. if the other person asks for personal information such as your full name, phone number, mailing address or other sensitive information), block or stop the conversation.
- Only give out personal information if you think it will help your friendship grow, and not be used in a devious way by another person. For example, if your friend gives you his first name and asks for yours, it probably isn't too much to give him your name. You could even give a pseudonym. But if the same person asks what street you live on, where you go to school, or where you work, it's not a good idea to give that information.
- If the other person ever wants to meet in person, make sure you have a phone or video chat with them beforehand so you can verify who they are. Avoid alcohol during the appointment, as it can cloud your judgment and lead to an unsafe situation.
Method 2 of 3: Using social media and apps
Step 1. Use Reddit's r/GamerPals to find gamer friends
Create a post on r/GamerPals and tell subscribers what game you want to play and what time zone you are in. This subreddit is solely dedicated to finding people to play with online. It has over 23,000 subscribers and you can ask people to play whatever game you are currently playing.
- You need to sign in to Reddit to make a post on r/GamerPals.
- Post titles usually include age, gender, location, time zone and the game you want to play (eg 28/M/US, CST, wants to play Far Cry 5).
Step #2. Find groups on Facebook
Search for the game you want to play in Facebook's search bar, then hit the "Group" button to filter by group only. Often there are multiple groups available for each game. Just click the 'Join the group' button and you will be added by a moderator. From there you can start posting to the timeline to see who wants to play.
- Avoid the suggestion that you're looking for "friends," as this can trick people into thinking you're looking for a deeper friendship. Instead, just say you're looking for someone to play with. Keep it relaxed and informal.
- Try something like, “Hello everyone, I'm looking for someone to play Far Cry 5 with tomorrow at 5:00 PM CST! Anyone fancy a game?'
Step 3. Use apps and websites to find gamer friends
There are many apps and websites that you can access on your computer, tablet or phone to find new gamer friends. To find more, you can search for 'game chat app' or 'find gamer friends online' in your favorite search engine.
- The Gamr2Gamr app lets you search for games that other users are playing. If you find an interesting gamer, you can send him a friend request and start playing together.
- GamerLink is an app that allows you to post to a forum and specify exactly what you're looking for (for example, "I need a tank and a healer"). If players respond to your post, you can add them to a friend list and ask them to play again later.
- 'Find Gaming Buddies' is a website that offers lists of users sorted by game. Just click on a game and browse the people who are currently playing that game. You can send a message through the website asking people to play.
Method 3 of 3: Finding Gamer Friends Offline
Step 1. Go to your local game store and ask what people are playing
Go to your favorite video game store and ask the people who work there what they play. If it's the same game you enjoy playing, consider asking them to play with you. Tell them outright that you're looking for someone. Say something like:
- I'm looking for people to play Call of Duty together. Would you be interested in playing together sometime?'
- “I love Call of Duty and I'm trying to get better at it. Would you like to play together sometime soon to help each other get better?'
Step 2. Use meetup.com to find groups of gamers
Visit meetup.com and check out the various options for video game groups near you. Meetup is a website where you can find different groups of people to 'meet up' with in real life. The site has many different theme filters, such as:
- online gaming
- PC gaming
- Multiplayer gaming
- video gaming
- console gaming
- Once you've chosen a topic, scroll down and select 'Show all'. Then click on 'Find a Meetup group near you.' The site will show all relevant groups meeting near you.
Step 3. Search gamers by game conventions
Go to a gaming convention, which is sure to be full of like-minded gamers. Start a conversation with people and ask what they like to play. If you find that someone likes the same game as you, don't be afraid to ask them to play sometime:
- 'I enjoyed talking to you! Would you like to play Call of Duty together sometime?'
- 'You seem like a nice person. Do you want to play Call of Duty online sometime after the convention is over?'
- Search for game conventions in your area using search terms like 'game conventions in Amsterdam' or 'gamer conventions in Utrecht.'
Step 4. Ask your friends and acquaintances to put you in touch
If you have friends who play video games, ask them if they know people who might want to play with you. They may even have gaming friends of their own that they would like to introduce you to.