The best beauty tip of all is to know that you are already beautiful just the way you are! However, sometimes it's hard to recognize your own beauty when you just don't feel beautiful. Here are a few things you can do to remind yourself that you are already beautiful and that everyone is beautiful in their own way.
Part 1 of 3: Taking action to learn to feel beautiful
Step 1. Write in a journal about your positive qualities
Start a gratitude journal that highlights your appreciation for what you love most about yourself. By staying grounded in your good qualities, both your inner and outer beauty, you will keep these things more conscious in your mind. Every time you doubt yourself or get an unkind comment from someone else, this way you have the things you value most about yourself at your fingertips. Consider the following tips for a gratitude journal that actually works:
- Don't automatically do the right things. Journaling is more effective when you make a strong decision to be happier and more grateful for your positive qualities.
- Choose quality over quantity. Keep your journal in detail about a few things, rather than a superficial laundry list of many things. Make it as personal to yourself as possible.
- Think about specific situations and relationships that have been positively influenced by these qualities of yours to see how you can benefit from these qualities in your daily life.
- Reflect on what your life would be like if you suddenly didn't have your positive qualities. This makes gratitude come up quite easily.
Step 2. Take a look at your relationships
If you have stable amounts of love and acceptance, then you will always see yourself in the positive light that your loved ones see you in. In the same way, if you spend a lot of time with harsh or judgmental people, you will also come to see yourself according to their rigid, critical standards. If you are filled with the assumption that you are unattractive or worthless, ask yourself if someone in your life is perpetuating this idea.
Make sure you have good support from friends and loved ones. There is nothing more effective than social support in making you feel strong, capable and beautiful
Step 3. Decorate your home with beauty
This can mean decorating your room with beautiful scenes from magazines or posters or fun memories and knick knacks. Having a beautiful environment will also give you a sense of beauty. Remember to fill your space with what you like, instead of following the latest trends in design and decoration.
- Flattering lighting, such as milky white incandescent bulbs, will create an atmosphere of soft, elegant lighting that makes you and your surroundings more attractive in general.
- Also think about the placement of your fixed lamps. Light reaching your face from all sides makes it harder to see lines and shadows. So, for example, you could replace the fixed lighting in your bathroom with lighting on both sides of your mirror.
Step 4. Start each day with an affirmation
Take advantage of all the positive qualities you see in yourself by using them every morning to boost your confidence. Remind yourself, as vividly and in detail as possible, of the things you offer the world. Look in the mirror and tell yourself that these qualities (for example, your bright smile, your compassionate style) can be shared by you. You may feel weird or even self-aggrandizing at first, but you'll get used to being kind and self-motivated and experiencing the benefits of being your own best friend.
- Also try writing things on post-its or fridge magnets, or even the bathroom mirror with eyeliner that boost your confidence.
- Placing little memories in places you frequent keeps you in touch with the kind of thoughts that nurture optimism.
Step 5. Watch your posture
Good posture not only sends messages to others that we are confident and capable, but it also sends positive messages to yourself. This is because your mind is constantly communicating with your body about how you are feeling. When you stand up straight and look straight ahead instead of at the ground, your brain will get the message that you're feeling good about yourself and ready to take on the world (literally). People who sit up rather than slumped are often more confident in what they say and do.
Also try to keep your shoulders back and your chest open forward. By doing this you will look confident, taller and even smarter
Step 6. Listen to music often
Music is a big part of what helps you appreciate the natural beauty in life, and it's even claimed to have more of an impact than language on your sense of connection and orientation to the world around you. Listen to what gets your blood flowing, be it pop, rock, jazz or country. Constant listening will keep your mood up and make your thoughts appreciate beauty.
Step 7. Get a nice pet
Pets serve two purposes when it comes to making you feel beautiful. First, you get the chance to spend a lot of time around a visibly pleasing, always smiling creature. In a way, they can be the perfect accessory to take with you on the go. In addition, pets are trusted companions that make you feel loved, without the conditions of human relationships.
Be sure to only adopt a pet if you have the resources to actively care for it. Pets require quite a bit of responsibility and daily attention, but the benefits are enormous
Part 2 of 3: Using good self-care practices
Step 1. Get active
In addition to benefits such as weight loss, exercise has also been linked to fewer depressive symptoms and a reduced risk of heart disease. This means that a regular training schedule will leave you feeling boosted, energized and confident with your good health. If you're having a hard time finding motivation to start, try starting small by adding short walks to your week. After that, you can increase the amount of cardiovascular or strength training exercises to the level that your lifestyle allows.
Try exercising in ways that improve your flexibility. In this way you will learn to see your body as something that is always developing and changing
Step 2. Smile
Have you ever had those unbearably happy mornings? The kind where you smile at everyone on an early morning walk to the store, for example? These experiences can actually change how you see yourself and how others see you. Compared to people who don't smile, people who show their pearly whites more often are seen as more honest, more sociable and even more competent. Even if you don't feel like it. It will make you look and feel much happier!
Remember, taking good care of your teeth is a great way to build confidence in your smile. Brush and floss regularly and reduce your risk of tooth decay by rinsing your mouth after eating or drinking something sweet
Step 3. Do what you do best
Spend as much time as possible doing things that show how talented and capable you are. A sense of accomplishment is part of what creates the kind of beauty that comes from within. This may seem obvious, but sometimes the things we are really good at can slip away when the responsibilities of a job or school require us to be distracted from our talents.
For example, if writing is your forte, write poems or prose in your spare time. If you're brilliant at sports, join a team that plays on weekends so you always get your healthy dose of competition
Step 4. Eat right
Remember that eating healthy is not the same as dieting. Diets are often temporary and not sustainable in the long run. Eating well requires habits such as putting more fresh vegetables, fruits and whole grains on your shopping list, and cooking with lots of variety. If you eat a lot of foods high in fat, sugar and salt, consider cutting back.
- Because balance is important, treating yourself is also part of eating right. If you're tempted by a single ice cream cone or pastry, don't deny it - this is where moderation comes in.
- Treating yourself will help you remember that how you treat yourself is a big part of the confidence that makes you glow.
Step 5. Learn relaxation methods
When you're comfortable, people will respond positively, making you feel attractive and present with others. Think about it -- when you see someone who is comfortable in their own skin, you would want to be a part of that relaxed way of being too. The following are a few helpful exercises that will slowly reduce the amount of tension you normally carry in your body:
- Progressive muscle relaxation
- Conscious breathing
Step 6. Be comfortable in your clothes
If you feel physically uncomfortable in what you are wearing, then you will develop an opposing relationship with your body; in other words, a negative body image. Forcing yourself into clothes that don't fit properly will make you see your body as too big or too small to wear what you want to wear.
For women in particular, wearing well-fitting clothes can change your image of yourself for the better, improving your self-confidence related to emotional management, social skills and work-related tasks
Part 3 of 3: Making changes in your posture to feel beautiful
Step 1. Base yourself in the truth of beauty
The funny thing about beauty is that we value it so much without realizing that, on average, conventionally attractive people are no happier than others. Remember that a sense of optimism, hope, satisfying relationships with others, and a sense of meaning and purpose in life are what influence happiness the most. This means that in the grand scheme of things, there are many more important factors that influence overall well-being and a happy life than just appearance.
Step 2. Change your negative self-talk
It's perfectly normal to walk around all day with a small voice in your head repeating critical and insecure thoughts, such as how fat your cheeks are or how clumsy you are. But the great thing about that small voice is that you can engage other thoughts in conversation with it. Replace the unkind messages in your head with neutral thoughts about the same things; for example, focus on the rosy skin on your cheeks rather than their size.
- Continue to challenge that little voice by quietly answering it with the things you like most about yourself. Share why others might find you attractive -- maybe you have full lips or tell the funniest jokes.
- Soon you will learn to see that qualities of your appearance and of your character are what makes you attractive.
Step 3. Accept your appearance
Accepting your appearance may not be a small task, especially if you often fear the judgment of others and worry about how you should look. Think about the qualities you like and don't like about yourself and try to understand that, whatever your opinion, all these qualities together make you who you are. Be proud of yourself and your appearance, whether or not it matches conventional standards.
Stop judging yourself by focusing less on your appearance. Give yourself and the mirror some time away from each other! People who judge their appearance negatively tend to zoom in on their characteristics and weaknesses, and self-centeredness often entails more self-criticism
Step 4. Check the reality
Stop comparing yourself to who and what you think others are. When you see a supermodel or famous person that you compare yourself to, try to see those people as genetic exceptions rather than beauty standards to live by. As our culture sets unrealistic standards for beauty, the importance of finding your unique beauty has become even more imperative.
- Make an effort to focus on your results rather than your shortcomings. This means that you take the time to consider all the unique things you bring to the table.
- When you tend to compare yourself to others, try to value them instead of approaching them with jealousy. Marvel at your differences and think about how boring life would be if everyone had the same gifts.
- Moreover, when you compare yourself to others, you are really comparing your inner self to someone else's outer appearance. This means you'll definitely be disappointed -- you'll be more knowledgeable about yourself, especially those pesky little secrets that are usually kept private.
Step 5. Learn to accept a compliment
Part of feeling beautiful is also allowing the positive opinions of others about you. Sometimes it can be so surprising or even confusing to hear compliments that you end up letting others know that compliments make you feel uncomfortable. In our haste, we often respond to compliments by saying Oh… or That's not true. At a minimum, try to respond with a positive acknowledgment such as “thank you, remembering that timing is key.
- If you wait too long, the acknowledgment can be confusing, and if it's too fast, you can interrupt the speaker.
- Or go beyond simply accepting the compliment by continuing with it or using it to start a new conversation. You can also share in the wealth by returning a positive comment.
Step 6. Appreciate your progress
Sometimes it can be hard to recognize how far you've come; in recent years it is likely that you have come to yourself as you have grown and matured. Perhaps your skin has become more radiant since you were young, or you have gained a lot of confidence through new work or romantic developments. Look at old photos and yearbooks. Take the time to laugh at how painful you looked and felt compared to now, and cherish how far you've come.
- Remember that if people you find attractive don't pay attention to you, it doesn't mean you aren't beautiful.
- Don't be afraid to look in the mirror for as long as you want and smile at yourself and feel good about who you are.