Going to a club and dancing with a girl may seem terrifying to some; it is noisy, space is limited and no one really knows each other well. But think about how important those factors really are. Then if you follow the advice below, you will see that it is quite easy to find a girl to dance with!
Method 1 of 2: Approaching a girl
Step 1. Find a nice girl
Make sure she doesn't have a boyfriend and is looking for attention from other guys. Normally no one is looking for a fight unless you are acting annoying or arrogant. If she already has a boyfriend, apologize to her and leave.
Step 2. Gauge her interest
This is not necessary, but try to catch a signal from her that she wants to dance. You can smile at her. If she smiles back or otherwise shows that you've caught her attention, she probably wants to dance with you.
Step 3. Approach her dancing from behind
Try to approach her in such a way that she can see you coming. Leave some space in the beginning so she doesn't feel like you're forcing yourself on her.
Some girls don't like to be approached from behind. Try to assess the situation and determine whether it is better to approach her from the front
Step #4. Wait for her to get closer
If she's interested, she'll come closer and start dancing with you by moving, twisting, or rubbing against you. Most women dance at their own pace. Accept this and go with her pace in the beginning. Make sure your hip movements are even so that the dancing is comfortable for both of you.
Method 2 of 2: Considerations for dancing with a girl at the disco
Step 1. Take charge
If you've danced with her for a while and you want to change your tempo, you may want to place your hand on her hip. If she doesn't like that, apologize. You can then consider dancing with someone else, unless she indicates that she wants to continue dancing with you.
Step 2. Leave the initiative for more body contact to her
Some girls want to dance with you more intensely, by letting you touch certain body parts. This is usually only accepted if the initiative for more physical contact lies with the woman. She usually does that by taking your hand and placing it somewhere on her body.
Don't squeeze her or make childish overtures. This breaks the chemistry that has built up between you. Don't take any chances and let her take charge until you are sure of what she wants
Step 3. Note symmetry
If you're a tall guy, it's best to pick taller girls, or at least medium-height girls. If you're dancing with someone much smaller, whatever you do, your moves will look weird anyway.
Step 4. Turn your attention to her
Don't look at other people and focus on what you are doing. Good dancers are there to be watched; not to look. br>
Shield your eyes to make this easier. You can put on a hood, sunglasses or a hat
Step 5. Dance to the rhythm
Most club music generally has the same rhythm: one-two-boom, one-two-tap. Make sure you dance to the rhythm or she may lose interest.
Step 6. Concentrate on your foot movements
That is just as important, if not more important than the movement of your upper body. Use all parts of your feet: your heels and your toes. If you move smoothly with your feet, your body will automatically follow along.
Step 7. Vary your moves
Change your moves to match the songs being played. Go down a little more. Wrap your arms around different parts of her body (keep it modest, unless she prompts more). Make an occasional hand movement. Make your dance stand out from the crowd. That way she stays interested in you.
Step 8. Be confident
Being stiff or nervous is a turn off for her. Girls like confident men. Remember that no one is watching your dance moves. Everyone is in the club to enjoy themselves, just like you.
Step 9. Accept rejections
If your partner indicates that they don't want to dance with you anymore, no matter how briefly it was, accept that and move on. Remember that your chances of dancing with another girl are highest when you have just finished your previous dance.
- Make eye contact and smile when you dance near a cute girl. Don't seem nervous or excited.
- If the girl rejects you, don't stand still. Just keep dancing and move on to someone else soon.
- If a girl doesn't dance or even stands still when you try to dance with her, she's not interested. Then let it sit and move on.
- If you're afraid of being rejected, it's best to try dancing with someone who dances alone. Ideally, she dances next to a friend who is already dancing with another boy.
- If the girl really doesn't want to dance with you, she'll take your hands off her hips.
- Don't try to dance with a girl who is with a group of girlfriends. She may reject you because she doesn't want to be the only one in the group dancing.
- If you approach a girl to dance and she suddenly has to go to the toilet, you can see that as rejection. Don't try to dance with her again once she gets back. If she really needed to go to the bathroom and wants to dance, she will come to you.
- Never try to get her attention by touching her bottom. You run the risk of getting a slap in the face, because most girls find that annoying.
- Never ask a girl directly if she wants to dance with you; then you have to scream really loud in her ear. It's best to just start dancing and let nature take its course.
- Don't try to dance with her to the last slow song. Slow songs are usually for couples and she will probably reject you for that. If she rejects you, it can be humiliating and painful.