At work, during negotiations and in simple interactions, it is sometimes necessary to trick someone. Hiding the truth from someone and then making it public can be fun and very interesting in certain contexts, such as psychology and preference research, business and practical jokes. Deception can be fun and simple. Tricking someone into making that person do something you want, either as a joke or for the fun of doing something clever in front of others, can be accomplished by just following a few simple steps, but remember that you are dealing with the feelings and the trust of other people plays a role.
Steps
Part 1 of 4: Choosing a target
Step 1. Decide what you wish to achieve
You need to set clear goals about what you expect from someone and what benefit you will get from cheating on someone. This will help plan for the deception, determine when to stop, and choose your target.
Step 2. Choose your target
Your target should have what you wish to achieve, be it money or an easy smile, and that person should consider you credible. You will want to approach the person openly and without deviousness, so it should be someone with whom you are friendly on your own. The person in question will also need some sense of humor if your deception is likely to hurt his or her feelings. Depending on how you think the relationship will evolve after the deception, it may be helpful to research your target's behavior and hobbies beforehand.
- Identify potential secondary targets to manipulate. These will be your accomplices (the people who will help you carry out the deception) and possibly your pillories (those who can pin you as the culprits) if your joke is so mean that someone else will take some of the blame. want to take. You can involve them in your deception by simply being honest (tell them about the joke) or by deceiving them as well. Accomplices are entitled to a share of what you wish to gain from it, as they may be taking a risk and playing key roles in your particular prank. It's important to keep them happy.
- Limit the knowledge of your real objective to a small group. Lying can be detected by verbal and non-verbal language. More accomplices to deceive will make you more likely to be discovered. Carefully choose the people you trust, depending on the specific deception.
Step 3. Develop the tactic(s) you will apply to this person
To fool someone means that up to a point you will have to adjust your behavior to make untruths come across as truths. If you don't know the person who will be tricking you very well, it can be useful to work out a false identity. Just make sure to keep the details consistent and avoid disclosing the secondary identity.
Choose an identity that the target will respond to well. By emphasizing experience or a resemblance (if the person is a gamer then pretend to be one) you will appear much more convincing and in a better position to trick this person. It shouldn't deviate from your real-life identity unless you cut off all contact with the person after the deception
Part 2 of 4: Building trust
Step 1. Provide incentives
You will need a reason before your victim will trust you enough to be deceived later. You can achieve this by using an identity they find valuable (an expert in a particular field, for example) or by encouraging a relationship of mutual honesty.
Encourage this by doing favors for each other and by expressing gratitude when business is done through you. People tend to put more trust in and ask favors from people who have helped them before. You should approach them with an acceptable request for a favor they would be happy to do. If they are tired or exhausted, there is a higher chance that they will comply with your request
Step 2. Maintain an honest and trustworthy reputation
For this, you can use your accomplices and ask them to either spread false messages or messages that will distort your target's impression of you. Returning favors in the early stages of your relationship and showing respect for its mutual nature will help. You have to make sure that your target really believes you are who you claim to be and that you have honest intentions. Your target should have the wrong impression about you and your behavior.
Step 3. Stimulate empathy through mirroring and positive behavior
You can address your target's vanity by mirroring, by repeating their name often, by nodding, by using positive words, by repeating their statements, and by no means criticizing them. By mirroring someone's behavior and attitude, that person will become more empathetic and receptive to your behavior and attitude. Avoid being an exaggerated slime, as people don't respond well to excessive flattery or obvious, deliberate mirroring. Be subtle and do something that you've rehearsed beforehand.
Part 3 of 4: Deceive quickly
Step 1. Make sure everyone and everything you need for the joke is on site
Your accomplices need to know when to enter, what to say, and what to do. The person who will blame you must already be involved if you intend to use a pillory. You must now be sure that you will be able to execute the prank quickly and effectively, because you will only get one real chance.
Step 2. Perform your prank
At this point, you can use the confidence to perform any number of short or major deceptions, depending on what you want from the person you're cheating on. Small jokes will be most effective and will not jeopardize your relationship with your target. You can use the basic structure of the jokes below to influence your deception, but it's important that you consider how mean the joke is, how much you like the person, and whether you still need your relationship to survive the joke.
- Abuse semantics in betting. You can use old tricks like "I bet I can get a dollar from under the napkin without touching the napkin" or something like that to trick the person into lifting the napkin themselves so you can find the dollar.
- Betray their trust so that you leave them with a sense of shame. If you simply want to make fun of the person in question, you can use the relationship you have built against him or her. By obtaining and then disclosing sensitive information they have entrusted to you, or by sharing it with someone they would rather not know, you will be able to humiliate the person and hopefully enjoy their pain.
- cheat them. You can make them believe, like in the movie Carrie, that they will receive a reward or something and instead you harm or hurt them, like Carrie who gets the blood all over her after the dance.
Step 3. Conceal or reveal your pleasure
Assuming your intention is to hide your role as the creator of the joke, you will have to muster sympathy, ignorance, and innocence so that your role in the deception is not obvious. How you react to the immediate effects of the joke on your target will affect your relationship with the person in question. If the prank is successful then you are free to reveal yourself as the creator of the whole deception.
Part 4 of 4: Getting away with it
Step 1. Avoid performing extremely nasty or harmful deceptions
At worst, this will help you in future attempts to deceive people and uphold your current reputation. Messages of deception will make people more suspicious of you, including the true claims you make. It will also be much easier to put the blame on someone else for something that isn't particularly offensive or poses no risk to someone's reputation.
Step 2. Try not to feel guilty
If your joke was harmless then this will be simple, but otherwise you will have to focus on minimizing your guilt. Lies to cover up transgressions stand out exceptionally well and you should try to avoid making the joke come across as transgressive even if it is. You'll probably have to lie to yourself about the consequences of the joke so that your ethical considerations can be set aside somewhat.
Step #3. Move away from the scene
When you're done with the original joke, unless you're very good at hiding yourself, your target will likely be suspicious and more likely to label claims or propositions as unfair. Going unnoticed is crucial to pulling the prank again, as is maintaining the reputation of a trustworthy person (which ironically is crucial to successfully being dishonest). If your prank fails then you have to be willing to blow everything off.
Step 4. Provide a pillory
To avoid blame, it will be necessary to play a secondary prank on someone so that someone is seen as the culprit. It will be helpful if this person is an accomplice for the other accomplices to turn against, or an absent, unbelievable, or obnoxious person so as to minimize the chances of your secondary joke being exposed It can be difficult to pass the blame on someone else but if the joke is public and well received then your pillory will probably be all too happy to 'take the blame'.
Tips
- Manage both your verbal and non-verbal communication. Lies usually have less detail, are more self-glorifying and less effective for the party being misled than stories.
- While lie detection can be effective without special training, it will only actually work half the time. Many people are easy to deceive.
Warnings
- Deceiving and working out practical jokes reduces effectiveness and satisfaction, because liars who are discovered are less likely to be believed, even when they do tell the truth.
- Lies that disguise facts rather than feelings are less easily discernible than normal communication that does not aim to mislead.