A little mystery can come in handy if you want to build a good reputation. By adjusting your behavior and the way you talk in company, you can very well envelop yourself in a kind of mystery that will make you appear more interesting, exciting and attractive to those around you.
Method 1 of 3: Communicate with others
Step 1. Tell as little about yourself as possible
If you are outgoing and warm-hearted, you may have a tendency to tell your life story to everyone. But remember that mysterious people are not open books. Try to say as little about yourself as possible, and if someone asks you a personal question, do answer, but with no more than a few vague words.
For example, if someone asks you about your relationship that recently ended, you could say something like, "It just didn't work." That's an acceptable answer, but it doesn't reveal any private details about yourself
Step 2. Think before you speak
This means that you say as little as possible at the same time. Before you say every detail that pops into your head, think about why you want to say what you're thinking at that moment and only say it when it's necessary. That way you will make a mysterious impression.
Step 3. Listen more to others
People who are mysterious usually observe more than they draw attention to themselves. Concentrate on taking in your surroundings, listen as closely as you can to what others are saying and make sure you fade into the background a bit. In this way you will not only appear more mysterious, but also become a better interlocutor.
Step 4. Double-check everything you post on social media
If you're really happy or angry about something, think twice before posting it all over social media. To be mysterious, you have to set limits on what you reveal about yourself, both personally and on social media. Make sure your presence is not too obvious on platforms such as Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, Snapchat and other social media.
For example, give the posts of others on Facebook a thumbs up every now and then and post a photo yourself every now and then with a short caption
Method 2 of 3: Acting mysteriously
Step 1. Be confident
To appear mysterious, you need to feel good looking and comfortable in your own skin. Appearing relaxed and confident is intriguing to others. A cool attitude can contribute to your mysterious image because it shows that you know exactly what you are doing and who you are, while that is not always clear to others. Pay attention to your posture and keep your head up so that others will immediately pick up on your confident posture.
Confidence and arrogance are two different things; don't be rude and don't go bragging to everyone about how awesome you are
Step 2. Use your unique sides
Mysterious people often live their own way, which means they don't just follow the crowd. Instead of wearing fashionable clothes and participating in popular activities, create your own style and try to be as unusual and original as possible. That way you will appear complicated to others and difficult to understand.
Step 3. Do unpredictable things
Do things every now and then that others wouldn't expect you to do. That way you make people doubt the impression they have of you. Activities that seem unusual can make others curious and make them wonder who you really are and what you really love.
For example, if you normally never say anything in class, give a well-thought-out, intelligent answer to a teacher's question
Step 4. Hide your emotions
Mysterious people are hard to fathom. If you're very expressive, others will know what you're feeling without you having to say a word. Pay close attention to your facial expressions and try to keep them a little neutral so that people won't know for sure what you're thinking and feeling.
- For example, if you had a huge fight with your sibling or one of your friends earlier that day, pretend it was just a normal day and nothing out of the ordinary happened. During the day in the company of the people you hang out with, try not to frown or cry.
- Always try to appear calm and cool so that you seem to have everything under control.
Method 3 of 3: Changing your lifestyle
Step 1. Try to be less present and available less often
To be mysterious, the most important thing is to be as reserved and as unfamiliar as possible. The easiest way to make sure people don't know much about you is to spend less time with them and talk to them less. Spend most of your free time alone and/or with people who really know you, so you can keep aloof from others.
Step 2. Make sure very few people really know you
Carefully choose a few different people you can trust to whom you are completely exposed. Everyone needs at least a few people to be close to. Only let these people know what you are afraid of, what you would like and what you regret. If people on the outside notice that you're only exposing yourself to very limited company, they may wonder who you really are, and may find that they would like to be one of those people you confide in.
For example, consider completely trusting only in your mother and in the one who has been your best friend for five years
Step 3. Concentrate on your hobbies
Having multiple hobbies can make you appear more interesting and versatile. It can also make you more mysterious if you spend a lot of your free time on your hobbies that you would otherwise use doing things with others. Plus, working on your hobbies can give you a sense of pride and purpose, which can give you a mysterious kind of self-confidence.
- Don't try too hard to be mysterious if it doesn't come naturally. It's meant to make people feel that it's part of your character, that is, who you are on the inside. You should not give them the impression that it is a role you are trying to play.
- Stop talking suddenly in the middle of a sentence.
- Being mysterious doesn't mean you have to be blunt and not consider others. It's okay to show that you don't want to talk about certain topics, but you shouldn't flatly ignore people or dismiss their questions as unimportant.
- A mysterious character can be attractive, but being absent and uninvolved all the time can become frustrating for others and they are more likely to find you less interesting. Make sure you understand the difference.